Ultimately Bear, the true consequence of this lack of respect is the loss of a "friendly" relationship which he said he wanted (as in 'Gary Unmarried') and I thought was best for the kids. I will not be a bitch, but I do not want to be 'friends' with my stbxH.
Exactly the stance I took in regards to my W's disrespecting me. We can't somehow force them to be respectful, but I do have the power to eject from my life anyone who does not treat me with respect.
Originally Posted By: steady
Originally Posted By: CD Bear
The reason for asking is I always see "set a boundary" and that entails (by DB standards) to explain it and define the consequesnces then enforce them.
They aren't always explained in advance. I never told my W if she disrespects me I will eject her from any friend status. To me, that's just common sense for people. I'm just treating her as if she has been ejected. I won't even bring it up unless she asks. She may ask she may not. It's not done for a reaction out of her - it's done because it's healthy for me and my self respect as a person.
The bringing people into the house is a definite one to address beforehand because it is set for the kids to prevent possible damage to them.
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