cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[awest1217]

Starting to get back onto the swing of things so hopefully I won't be so busy.

I have a cold or bad allergies so I am feeling like poop and it was a busy weekend with the children's resale at church.

Friday S wanted to go to my parents so he did, but then he didn't want to leave so he spent the night. The first night ever away from me. I am glad because he did well, but at the same time...my baby is growing up. It was really good to have some time to myself.

H has been calling everyday at 6 to talk to S. We don't talk anymore afterwards and S asked why. I didn't say anything and he said he would ask daddy. Then yesterday S started to cry because the last few days he hasn't wanted to talk to H on the phone. Yesterday H made him cry on the phone because H said something about seeing S on Friday, but S said to me right away I see daddy tomorrow. H said kind of sternly, No S I didn't say that. Remember how mommy doesn't like when you lie. S then burst into tears. I was so mad at H because he doesn't get it. We really need to talk because he is so stern with S and doesn't understand him at all. S doesn't understand time yet so when he said tomorrow...I just told S calmly, no tomorrow is Monday you will see Daddy on Friday. If it was an issue i would talk to H. I don't want H yelling at S because he doesn't understand. You just clarify not tell him he was lying.

Then S cried that he wanted daddy so H is going to come over after work today to play with him for a bit. I talked to S this morning and he said he wanted to go to "daddy's house" actually the in-laws. I said well daddy is going to come see you and take you to the park. S said "no I want to go to daddy's house". This made me think because if he just wanted H then H coming over would be good, but why does he want to go to his house. I asked S if he wanted daddy or the toys at grandma's. He said the toys. So really he doesn't want daddy...he wants to go to grandma's because he wants to play with the toys. S misses going to grandma's every Friday night. He misses spending time with his uncles and grandparents. He doesn't really want H, but now H is the only way he gets to go over there.

All things H and I need to talk about because I never had issues with S until now so maybe we will have to do every Friday at the grandparents for dinner and every other Saturday unless something comes up because that is what S is used to and maybe then he won't throw fits and ask to go to "daddy's" when he really wants his grandparents and uncles.