Thanks for taking the time to find me and let me know about the book!
Allen: why not a fan?
I will definitely have to get it and see what it's all about. It certainly can't hurt - the more info the better, right? Maybe it will help with my sitch, who knows. Right now H and I are getting along fine but he still makes no attempt to connect with me.
While he isn't going anywhere, I feel as lonely in this marriage as ever. We go places and he used to hold my hand all the time and has always been a pretty affectionate person. Now, I get nothing. Went to a concert together last night and while we had a good time, you would've thought we were neighbors. It's sad to me that I see no love in his eyes when he looks at me. Last night I thought to myself, "Maybe this really is over and I'm stupid for trying to save something that's just gone...."
Part of me thinks that it's that H makes no effort in the R - to restore the feelings. I guess it's back to him not making the effort because he doesn't "feel it" and me knowing that feeling it is not going come about until he takes action towards restoration.
I'm very frustrated this morning! Anyway, maybe the book will give some insight on how to help the sitch.
