Retrouvialle, it is near me in 3 weeks. Since she is on the "i want to work on this but can't live with you" kick, should I suggest that we just work out the next 3 weeks, do NOT go to mediation, go to Ret and then comeback and decide what to do? - MC, I told her I was interested in still going. She said she would be happy to go. I told her that I would make an appt this week. Should I? I don't see that it could hurt.
Yes. You and your wife are in a cycle that you cannot break out of. You need outside help. Personally, I prefer Retrouvaille to MC. It is concentrated into one weekend and has a strong effect. MC is only an hour a week. Unless you and she are enjoying what you are doing and how it is hurting your son, get her to agree to go and just get along til then.
