I don't know if it is the right time for any of you or not, but I wrote a letter to ex before d was final. I really didn't tell him in the letter that I would take him back but I told him that if there wasn't a 3rd party in the picture that we would not be going thru this. I also told him face to face to stop the affair & lets go to couseling, this was when he had been drinking one night, so he was vulnerable & before the letter, he didn't say no, so I think he was thinking about it, but of course he had to leave & I'm sure he called ow & that took care of that. The mediator also asked him if he would be willing to reconsile but at that point, I was going after too much & he was very mad at me. So, you do have to take into account your sitch with you H. In the letter I wrote to him, I also said with much regret I was letting him go. I was hoping that would turn him around but he was too far gone by that time. I guess I should have tried earlier but honestly with the sociopath he is with now, I don't think any of it would have done any good.
