That stress and the not feeling good is partly that and partly a middle aged guy thing. Have you been through menopause yet? He is having the same symptoms!
Lance, when H/XH left I suspected MLC/depression and time seems to have borne out my hunch. I read everything I could get my hands on about male MLC, including peer-reviewed research papers. H had been experiencing unexplained fatigue for about 3 years when he dropped the bomb (he was 54 then). He went to his MD a few times for blood-testing but those tests were normal. (His MD didn't test for hormone levels). After almost 2 years of observing H/XH I feel confident he is in MLC.
Re: your comment above, I am aware that MLC men are angry and irritable (masculine way of expressing depression), may be fatigued, and have night sweats and reduced libido. Are there other signs that you’re aware of?
I had been approaching menopause but the bomb drop pushed me over the edge, almost immediately. My most annoying symptom is difficulty sleeping (I had been having this symptom for a few years but attributed it to stress).
Originally Posted By: LanceSijan
The only thing I would caution about this is that they are secretive whether there is or isn't an OW/OM. Being a teenager means that you are secretive from your parents no matter what it is you are doing. So don't assume that just because they are secretive that something is going on that is shocking!
Cas and Lance, I have to agree with Lance on this one. H/XH was living with his 83 year old mother for the first 8 months after the bomb drop. I know from a reliable source that there was no OW during that time but H/XH was quite secretive. After he bought his own house he dated an OW “hot and heavy” for 2 months but it imploded. There were no other semi-serious R from May 2009 to March 2010 according to my source, but XH was VERY secretive throughout this time.
Well………….XH is on his out of town vacay/work trip until Thursday. Last Friday XH sent me a cute little animated Tomcat (iPhone app) that I forwarded to my sister. Bless her heart, my sister emailed XH today and asked him to send an animated Tomcat with a message to our niece who is moving to college this week. Even though XH is on vacay he responded and sent niece cute Tomcat message saying “(Niece’s name), watch out for those dorm boys. He-he-he-he-he!”. That made me think that there wasn’t an OW around……..and it also shows movement toward my family. Interesting…………..I visited X-MIL this evening, as promised, and gave her a new manicure. Sent a few photos to XH on my cell phone (I normally do this when I visit X-MIL) showing him the new manicure, along with funny things his mother had said, like “Why is it that now that my nails are wet I feel like I have to scratch my b*tt?” I offered to do it for her, but she declined.
If I ever find out if XH was with OW I’ll let you all know.
