I never had to say. She could tell by how swiftly I confronted her about affair, and how aggressively I exposed it, that I meant business, I guess.
If she HAD violated them? Well, she did stay out really late one night, and I locked up the house tight, and turned out all the lights, inside and out. If she had contacted OM in front of us, I would have probably stepped things up very legally. I let her know very clearly that how she "behaved" those months would have a great deal to say about what I decided to do about pursuing primary custody of our boys.
