Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[newmama]

Piano, how are you? I just got back from a beach trip.
Well, detachment will not be 100%. You will have an easier time (I predict) with him out of the country but the hard part will be when you do receive communication from him. Do not feel like you are failing when you suddenly miss him after reading an email or something. It is totally natural.

I don't know how to help you divorce your H in your head. For me, I truly needed to see the physical D papers in front of me to "get it."

And I still have setbacks like tonight when stbxh wanted to connect with me about the house and talk about him moving his stuff and I just didn't feel like talking to him. BUt I couldn't be strong enough to look him in the eye the whole time. And I couldn't stop loving the SOB! So I just am honestly telling you that detaching is just soooo damn difficult. It helps to have no contact and a full schedule with your daughter, friends, and family.