I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

So about stbxh....he took some furniture that he said he was going to take. I came home to see the place looked a little different, but not much. I did feel a little teary.

Side note- I also felt teary when I was on my way to the beach house trip because this was a tradition my friends and I started when I met stbxh.

My friends mentioned him like he had died or something- a couple of times they said things like "stbxh could fix anything!" or " stbxh was always so good at helping out without being asked" or "stbxh did excellent work on your house" or "stbxh would have loved these water activities we're doing!"

OK so stbxh came to pick up S. He walks up to the door, just closing his phone. He said "my mom called to say she is coming in 2 weeks. Great. She didn't ask as usual."

I just thought "well at least it's not MY problem anymore!"

He told me the things he took this weekend and he said "I just don't want you to think I was leaving this for you to deal with." I said "ok. I don't really think that. " BUt I was not interested in talking about it.

Then he asks how S did on the trip and I told him some of the fun things he got to do. I mentioned that the spray sunscreen is bad because they found that babies breathe it into their lungs so the toxic crap (that is in practically every sun screen) gets into the body more readily. So he said "ok, so we won't be using that then. right?"

He seemed curious about the trip-said a few times "so he had fun, huh? everything was ok? the trip went well?" I think he missed it! I really do!

Then he asked me about the yard...he said "what's your opinion- I think we need to trim that tall tree because it's so close to the house. I could get a quote from someone to come and do it. What do you think?"

I really think "I could give a crap since YOU agreed to be the one in charge of the yard stuff and you said 3-4 months ago that you were going to put grass in the yard and lay down bark chips. BUt you have yet to do it. But you like to repeat it a lot."

But I said "Well, I guess it looks pretty dangerous to try and do it yourself. I guess it would be smart to get someone to cut it."

And he had put S in the car. S was waiting, I was trying to unload my car and get on with my evening. Then he goes into the garage and asks about painting the bathroom.

The night he delivered the D papers, I had been painting the hallway bathroom. I stopped of course, and never even rinsed out the roller or the paint tray. I put it on the work bench and left it there. So the roller is rock hard stiff, stuck to the tray,and I just haven't dealt with it yet.

He asks me if I want him to get a gallon of paint so I could finish the bathroom. He said he would do the trimming part. I just said "well, ok, but I don't know if I need a whole gallon."

And finally I had to be the one to say "well, I gotta go because I need to unpack and take a shower and stuff."

Hmm. I did put a box of the love letters I wrote him in the office. I didnt see them in the garbage. Did he see the teeny piece of condom wrapper I left on the floor in the bedroom? Because I left the door open so that my new bedding and paintings and very clean bedroom were on display!