After he went to bed she was obviously devastated. She was weeping terribly and well, I held her being Mr. Melty Man of course because I'm not 100% detached just like Coach called it.
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She was deathly afraid of the "mean guy" i was earlier today. She didn't like him one bit. She told me tonight that when I hurt her by acting like that she's never felt anything close to that pain before in her life.
John,
You WANT her in that "crucible!" That "pain" she's describing is CONSEQUENCES, and it's GROWING UP, and it's everything she needs to do right now.
If you're going to CONSCIOUSLY do "melty man" for her, even tho you KNOW it's not the right thing to do, then I'm afraid I can't help you any further.
