Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

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And on page 70 of Divorce Busting there is some info on a study about schizophrenics... it explains a bit about how when the mother 'overparents' the father kind of backs off to the sidelines. I do think that happened in our household. He is/was never here so I ran the whole show and when he walked in he could play with them and leave. He makes plans for himself without any thought of if I have plans or if there will be anyone to watch the kids. One of my 180s this week was going to be to ask him what night he could be home early so I could go out for a little bit on my own. If he asks where I guess I'll tell him to a few stores. This will give me a little bit of time to shop for new clothes without toting 2 toddlers and give them some time with their daddy without me around to either critique him or run over to help out if someone cries.