Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[Dagny-2]

Dagny,



Oh, and another thing: I've decided I don't like your husband very much.

Puppy

He isn't on my top ten list, either.



I took my hike this morning (mission MILF) and had no contact with him. I didn't call to remind him to sign up S11 for soccer, took it for faith that he would follow through (and he did). Made some subtle changes around the house and went and bought new sheets, sheets that an adulter has never slept on. And I'm going to put my really pretty quilt on the bed, even though he thinks I shouldn't because our black dog will get hair on it. Ha!

So H came over to spend the afternoon with the boys. Friends were still here. Very, very awkward. But he noticed the changes, said I see you made some changes, and I said I need to make it mine. He said he understood (gosh, I'm so glad, I was just looking for his approval). He was upset that I didn't use our bed last night, not sure why, wait till he sees all the new stuff I got. Not too much, I know money is going to be tight, but just enough. I got new toothpaste, too! He worked on a school project with S13 and I tried to stay away, but not so obviously. He had grumpy face on for a bit, but I tried not to ask him too many questions about how he was doing. I asked him some house questions while he was here. I just don't know how to answer his questions about how my night was. I had a work project last night, so just chatted about that and then told him a bit about our outing. He then asked later how I was doing. Does he want me to be breaking down? What does he want? I just said as well as can be expected. I thought that was vague and non-confrontational, but still weird. I don't want to escalate this to a hostile environment, but I do want to say, bugger-off, you lost the right to know.

Friend 1 left and then the kids wanted to go to the creek with their godfather (instead of sit around house with H) and that left H and I. We ended up talking schedules, simply logistics about the kids and about when he can come and get furniture. He is going to take the boys' couch that they have in their playroom for video games, that will make him popular. But, just so he is comfortable. I even helped him pack up some kitchen stuff, at one point he got annoyed that I was offering so much stuff--he didn't want to take too much at once! He thanked me for being reasonable when he left! He said something to the effect even though you don't have to be reasonable. I just smiled. He said I can imagine what you are thinking. I said nothing.

So I'll continue with the no initiating contact, though he said he wanted to come over to see the godfather tomorrow and I said he could come to dinner if he liked. Not sure if I should be that nice.