i caused the pain

[bustorama]

DTH,

Have you read divorce busting or divorce remedy yet?

1) It will be a LONG road back -- patience, patience, patience. Write down a list of tangible "baby step" goals you would like to see happen over the next month or two. I don't know where things are for you, but maybe small goals like W calls me 1x a week (or daily depending on how frequently she is calling you).

2) AVOID initiating any R talk or trying to convince her to try. Don't even suggest that she should be trying.

3) Focus on yourself right now and your kiddos, not what she is doing. Better yourself and when she initiates contact with you, validate what she is saying and validate her hurt. Keep doing this and DON'T expect results immediately.

4) Do 180's for about 2 weeks and see "what works" If you dont' see ANY even small signs of progress, then try some different 180's