I was 7 hours into a ten hour drive, hadn't seen my kids in a week and found out that stbxH had gone against what we had MUTUALLY AGREED was in the best interest of our children.
Did I really nearly go off the deep end? Not really, but I guess it depends on your definiton of the 'deep end' . I just vented to some trusted friends and got some anger off my chest. Then I got hit with more disrespect when I got home, after finishing that 10 hr drive (and I know tired is not an excuse but it is what it is). And I vented and ranted to those trusted friends again.
Then I decided to set/enforce some boundaries. I did not call him names, I did not call her at all, I did not 'lose it' or any of the things that the old PEI would have done.
I am done being disrespected.
My status update on the alt was a little mellow-dramatic ... "PEI is extremely grateful for her DB friends and their ability to talk me off the ledge".
Thanks all ... really.
Oh, and Mach ... I am slowing down and truly considering your post and your questions. I will set and enforce my boundaries but from a place of love and detachment, not anger. Thank you dude.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
. I just vented to some trusted friends and got some anger off my chest. Then I got hit with more disrespect when I got home, after finishing that 10 hr drive (and I know tired is not an excuse but it is what it is). And I vented and ranted to those trusted friends again. 
