Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

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I've agreed to let her come to the house tonight to let her tuck S4 into bed. This was at my suggestion, not hers. And I've only done that because he was crying and screaming for her earlier. He is so confused... I just want him to be tucked in by his mother this evening.

I really question your motive. A man who is detached and committed to taking care of himself absent his W would have found a way to be the single dad he says he accepts he must be. You could have distracted the little guy and made it all better all by yourself. You are using your son.

Yeah, I'm a softie. It's probably not the best idea, but I love him and want him to feel safe. I feel that is what is best for my son right now, so that is what I'm doing.

Sorry, but I think you did it for yourself.

I made it clear that she needs to leave after he's in bed. She said she would - and appreciated the love and generosity that I'm showing her.

She's playing you.

Today, ironically during our meeting she broke down at one point sobbing and said, "I just want to go home and lay in my bed - I'm so sick. I'm so broken I just want to go home, lay in bed and have you love me and hold me and take care of me."

Not 'ironically'....PREDICTABLY! You put her on the ropes (for like 2 seconds) and she is getting scared. So...she is playing you.

My heart melts everytime I think of that because even though I'm detached, that's what I had been seeking the past two months.

Stop MELTING! She is most likely saying that so you won't come after her legally. She wants you to play nicely. She wants you to feel sorry for her so you won't take the action you should. Your girl-child knows exactly what she is doing. We have seen this here before.

This afternoon when we spoke on the phone, she reiterrated how sorry she was that it all turned out this way. I agreed and validated her feelings, saying I felt the same way. I then told her that through all of this crap, even though I don't like her, and I don't want to be with her - there is a part of me that wishes this could all be fixed for the sake of our son.... that I pray that somehow this could all work out. She said that she wanted the same exact thing.

Neither wishing nor praying is a plan. You have to be strong with a plan, and you need to study history, John. Re-read your thread. She keeps stepping up the drama with you, and you bow down to it every time. And nothing gets better. She says it will. She says she wants it to. She says she's sorry. But it's all talk. Re-read your thread.


My prediction is she'll try to 'tag' you tonight. Brace yourself -

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