First, the OW I was spending so much time with over the past few months said she didn't want to see me anymore b/c I can't commit to her 100%. She is totally right and deserves someone who can give that to her. BTW, yesterday 8/21 was when W dropped bomb on me. My friend told me next year not to leave the house and commincate with no one on 8/21. haha
I haven't given up yet on my M. At times I feel things could work out then those times I feel they can't. I am trying to focus on the positives.
I did receive a response back from on this morning.
She asked to keep the kids next weekend to take them to the beach. Asked about the schedule for the kids when they start school and offered to help me work out the scheduling if I needed help.
She finished with: I will call the mediator tomorrow, September 12th works for her.
At a loss right now how to proceed.
Should I suggest meeting to talk about the finances? The more we have together the less the mediator's time we will need.
I'm missing my family right now. I know once D5 starts school it will be another change in life. I know I will be able to handle it. Just like to share those passages of life by the kids when W.
Any words of wisdom???
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I also know just b/c we goto the mediator it mean there's no chance.
I guess I'm struggling with the uncertainty. Once the papers are signed and its official thingss will be better for my mindset.
I'm I correct in saying I should not bring up any R talk?
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I feel like a cow being led to the slaughter house.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I know I will survive eaither way. I'm just struggling with my inner being today. Was thinking last night I need to go all in or all out.
I know am not ready to be in another R with OW yet. That's not fair to them especiallyu if their looking for commitment.
The last thing I want to do is get serios with someone.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Go read Robx's thread again. I'm so impressed with how he handled himself. I know that most of our sitchs will never turn out like his, but one can hope.
I think you're wise not to look for another R. Not only is it unfair to the OW, but it's also unfair to you. You'll know in your heart when you're really ready to move on.
I'm going to meet this obstacle head on. No more fear about mediator. If that's what needs to be done then so be it.
Need to be strong and leading through the process.
No emotions, just business
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
