you are the only one that knows your h. What works for one does not work for the other. You still have to follow your heart.
In my opinion. I only want my ex back if he makes the initiative. He has to show the effort and the want to come back or I don't think he will stay. We cannot afford to go through the pain of our h's walking out again. We have to protect ourselves as much as possible.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
My D24 called me this morning and wanted to go to church with me. That was an unexpected pleasure, but she is determined to go through with at least a seperation from her husband.
D22 has already seperated from her husband.
I think Christmas is 4 months away and I can pull out last years pictures and tick off who will no longer be present. It breaks my heart for me, for them, for my grandbabies. Like my whole family has just desintigrated in the past year.
I'm still doing a lot of praying. I believe as badly as I want him to know I would be willing to work it out, now is definitely not the right time. He's still angry about the waiver.
As I've said before, God never gives you more than you can bear, I just wish he didn't trust me so much.
And it just gets better and better. My air conditioner just stopped running, and my ex brother in law ( Heating & Air, thank God) came out and said my fan motor is blown. Great. Just what I needed, another bill.
No. D24 says she just doesn't have feelings for her H anymore, and D22 ( my wild child) is bipolar and can't be reasoned with. D24's H is saying he will do anything, but she is saying too little, too late. Even told me she was disappointed in me for continuing to have feelings for her Dad.
Had D24 color my grays after church today, and of course, they were out of my color. Tried to get the next best thing, and it's waaay tooo daarrkk. I look like I should take up a station on a street corner. I may have to to pay the repair bill on the air conditioner. Ain't Life Grand??
I am sorry you are going through this chaos. May god give you strength...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Yeah! One crisis down, 999 to go. XBIL came out and fixed my air conditioner. It was pushing up to 90 in my house, so it's going to take a while to cool down.
Grit, I completely understand what you are saying, but H is unloading more and more of his responsibilities on me. Financially, emotionally, etc. Like this air conditioner bill. BIL had to replace fan motor, pay place 25.00 to open up on Sunday, it's gonna be like a $300.00 bill, and the only way I'll get him to help is through a lawyer. Same with the $1000.00 taxes due in October. How can I keep from irritating him when I have to have help with these things, and they are only fair.
I've tried to back completely away and let fate & God take a hand in H & OW's relationship. Ever since this waiver thing came up, he's just hounded me to death, and made me the enemy no matter what I do, unless I signed this legal document.
The B8tch of it is, if I have to go to court to settle with him, than I'll have to use our children as witnesses. I don't want to do that, but he'll leave me no choice.
