Thanks, you guys. I am really trying to go with the flow on this and *not* make assumptions about what it all may mean - but that is easier said than done!
Also, I have an appointment with my IC tomorrow and we'll review what has/hasn't been working regarding my resolutions. And hopefully we'll make some effective adjustments.
See, I have really SUCKED at resolution #1 - which is to not indulge these late-night things that Mr. A does. Back in January or February, when I was getting a lot of DB phone coaching from Jody, she suggested that Mr. A had felt neglected in our relationship, and his reason for calling/coming over in the middle of the night was to see how much attention I was willing to give him. Since that had been a sticking point in the past, she encouraged me to show my new attentiveness by answering the phone. BUT: 1) that was before we were divorced, and 2) Jody was very clear that it is NOT ok just to have booty calls.
At one point, she put it like this: Your old relationship was suffocated by a lack of romance. Booty calls are not romantic. Therefore, creating a new relationship based on booty calls is just more of the same.
She said it would be a good idea to ML more (since the majority of Mr. A's complaints have centered around that issue), but it would be a very bad idea to get in a booty call pattern.
