I believe that most of our H's know we would consider taking them back. They are terrified, terrified they will not meet our expectations, terrified we have not changed, terrified of being a failure and then being alone.
I have said things like, remember our wonderful family vacations, don't you miss being a family unit? Remember that funny thing that happened in our bible study.... These things did not cause pressure to my H. He seemed to respond positively with these statements.
Any mention of "love", wanting them back, etc... caused my H to regress.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
