Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

Met with her this morning. I was calm and stern, confident. She was a freaking mess. I've never seen her so broken. She was out of control sobbing/emotional, mood swinging, all of it the whole time.


Basically, she gave her "I want him 70% of the time". I told her that I wanted to have him half the time until mediation, she just flat out said no. I told her this conversation was over and she just went all crazy bawling crying everything. Just like I thought she would.

She broke down so hard she just wanted to go to the house and talk about it there. I made it clear that was NOT going to happen - she left that home, it is no longer her home. I would get anything she needed out of there and bring it to her. She was so so sad... but I held my ground. Told her there were only two conditions she would set foot in our home:

1. She goes to IC, and MC. She commits to working on this marriage and works on it for us. Yeah, we're both screwed up, we both need help, but if she wants to be in that home she needs to respect my boundaries.
2. She drops all talk of mediation because that does not work towards reconcile and fixing this.

She obviously took that as manipulation and controlling, but it wasn't. I was setting boundaries there.

At one point she just gave the "I'll do anything! I'll be with you forever! I won't divorce you! I love you!!!" and I just said, that's not what I want. That's a fear, not a commitment.

So we walked away today with a plan for tonight and tomorrow night. I'm takng S4 tonight, dropping him off at 9am tomorrow, then we will meet after work on Monday to talk some more.

She'll be alone tonight without S4. I fully expect that she's going to break down again.

She needs to hit rock bottom and realize the consequences of her actions.