One other suggestion....you want to be mysterious. Why don't you buy some nail polish remover and pour 3/4 of contents out, get a fingernail file (preferably used one...ask a female relative or friend to give you one), some cotton balls, and strategically place them in the bathroom. Let W wonder if you have been having female company!
Be kind of funny if she brings it up next week when she's with W.
"Out of the mouth of babes"--seriously, young children like your D are unwitting partners to the LBS in DBing! All the better for D to innocently mention this nice lady to W!!!
I don't usually advocate the "leave evidence of an affair" tactic as it can end up validating a cheating wayward rather than discouraging them... Isn't that what the divorce-busting approach is supposed to do? Discourage the cheating?
1)Makes me no different than W (wrong impression) 2)It would be purely for "W's impact" (wrong motivation) 3) wouldn't be true- in fact or in my character
I'm wanting to do things that are both "healthy" for me AND may have a added component regarding my WAW.
The thing is, even if you arne't cheating and you just leave the hint of it, that's more likley to encourage your wife to continue... It MIGHT scare her into coming home, but I seriously doubt that would be the result.
I am all for leaving indicators women are INTERESTED in YOU... But leaving an indicator that you are RESPONDING I think is a bit over the line...
You want your wife to be worried yes, you want her to think you aren't there at her beck and call.. you WANT her to realize she can't have her cake and eat it too...
But I think there are less drastic tactics to use at this point... Leaving indicators you are actualy taking on a lover yourself is an extreme tacic I would use in only the most desperate cases...
That's like an all or nothing gamble using that tactic...
It CAN work, but you have to be aware of the potental risks you take in heading that route.
I am lurking, but you are getting some great input here so I don't have much to add to it... Wonka, Puppy, etc, everyone is right on top of this one... Great stuff
Not really Allen. Being mysterious helps shake up the fog the WAS is in and will make W growl that some other chick is "invading" her territory. I doubt W will ask CD directly about the stuff. Even if she does, CD can respond in a matter-of-fact tone: "was doing a clean up project" and leave it at that. Whose fault is it to be assuming the "female company" has been over at the house? Not CD.
e.g makeup stuff in the master bedroom. That implies a "sleep over"
Correction: I suggested the bathroom...not bedroom. Heck, I have a nail polish remover in my bathroom as storing it in the garage along with other tools isn't right. There must be 101 different uses for nail polish remover. I've used it for other stuff...such as removing sticky glue from mirrors.
