OK. Good advice on all counts!

The DD approach is GENIUS! If I can go down THAT road before hitting on me/him, that's the best approach there is because no father wants his D marrying someone less than best for her and less than committed to her! Well...unless he can see where I'm going with it and then he might try to twist out of it. H is pretty smart and can see things a mile away that he thinks someone's going to try to use on him. That's OK though - I'll find a way.