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Thanks Steve - I'll schedule the locksmith after our meeting tomorrow.

Channel your 'Inner Steve McQueen', John b/c the stakes are high. Your W - immature, unstable - has left with your son. Do you know where he is right now?

So, we're meeting tomorrow at her request at 4:00pm to discuss in her words, "a plan for us to both be with S4 for the next few weeks until we can go to mediation and design a coparenting plan." She plans to come here to the house at 4:00pm, but I'm going to suggest that we do this on neutral ground and not at our home. Because I don't want a scene and I want to take EMOTION out of the equation on this meeting. If we're in a public place we can't let emotion get in the way (i mean, we can, but it would be bad).

Maybe having the meeting at home is a good idea. You can easily plant a recording device. You've got an unstable chick on your hands and she has your son. I'd think recording any and all of what she says will be important with the custody issues that are right around the corner.

She thinks that 70/30 (in her favor) is fair. She's thrown that figure out dozens of times. So I'll be walking into that meeting tomorrow. She reasons that she's been the primary caregiver for his entire life (as a SAHM) and that she should continue this. What she doens't recognize is that I've been the breadwinner for all these years so she COULD do that.

What the girl-child does not consider is that SAHM is probably not a reality going forward. She will have to work to support her unmarried self. Big Girl Panties.

My plan is this -
I have about 100 hours of vacation built up. I will tell her that I've been thinking about it, and I want to use a week's worth of vacation in the next few weeks before we get in front of a mediator. I'd like to take S4 fishing, to the beach, maybe to one of the caves or museums, etc... and that I want this because this may be the last time that I'm able to see him like that for a long time, and it is important to me and him that we bond before all of this goes down. Likewise, I think she should have a week with him too.

I will not say the words 50/50. That will set in her mind my precedence of only allowing 50/50 custody. I will not say those words! That reveals my plan.

I don't understand the meaning of this plan. Explain it another way.

She's gone.

You'd be lucky if she were, John. She is NOT gone. I predict you have more crazy-town coming your way and if you don't play it smarter than you have, your little boy will pay the price.

I will not play dirty unless forced to.

It's not about DIRTY. It's about playing SMART.

I will not threaten L or anything. I will stick to my guns as "I do not like where this is going. I need time to think about this really hard."

I will not agree to anything less than even time. I am standing up for myself. It is MY RIGHT to see my S4 as equally as she is.

Don't be silly. Get a lawyer. Don't deal with her - let your L deal with her. If she thought it was scary taking off with your son in a packed car, just wait until the L's office calls her. She'll be unglued. She thinks she can walk all over you b/c she has done it before. Now she has your son - and again I ask - do you even know where he is?


Stop letting her run the damned show. FOR YOUR SON'S SAKE!
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