The year of not my problem

[ClingingToHope]

Yes. Seeing her out sucks especially after helping on the car.

I haven't run into that yet. My STBXW does all of her partying in a little town about 30 minutes away so I'm guessing we won't cross paths for a long, long time.

That's good. The life she's chosen though is 180 degrees different than what she told me she wanted in life. But I've read elsewhere that the WAS is closer to the person she is now than the person she was when we got married. That person wasn't real. It was what she was trying to be for me.

Yes. The fantasy of things changing. There are just enough success stories on these boards to keep that 1 percent of hope alive. I've asked others on the boards if that goes away when the D is final --- and they said it still pops into their heads even after.