tired of this

[LRT Land]

Goodman - I'm so sorry to read about this new turn of events. I have been through serious illnesses with 2 family members - one survived. People will say things they don't mean. She is scared and she is reacting to your db. I was told to keep my daughter away from one family member b/c there was no point in her getting to know her. I ignored what she said and we showed up on her doorstep. It was a real turning point for us and she knew I wasn't going to abandon her through her illness.

When my family members had to go through their ordeal, I thought about what I could do to make it easier for them. I knew I would have time to grieve or rejoice later, depending on the outcome. I'd like to believe that it helped both of them to get through their ordeals. And later, I rejoiced plenty for one and still grieve for the other.

I think you are right to backburner the R talks until her outcome is resolved. In a way, I still see it as DB because you are doing what you need to do to take care of you, and in these situation I believe what is best for you is to focus on them. You don't need to go overboard - just do what is comfortable and natural. As you said, nothing to cause more angst.

I'm really sad you've had this twist. It makes mine feel small in comparison. Please keep posting - you will need support too.

(((hugs)))