Hi John, I've been lurking but followed your whole sitch. Sandi and Steve have given you excellent advice.
Consider calling off the meeting tomorrow until your head is straight. You don't want to make things worse. Don't do anything out of revenge. Stick to your values. Calm down. You will see your son and you will get a better outcome if you chill.
Your wife is suffering too; it's her son too. I'm not defending her for all the crap that's happened, but she's only 24 and has a heck of a lot of growing up to do.
Don't allow another scene like that to happen in front of your son.. I know how shocking it is...similar thing happened to me, several times over...not good.
You are a good bloke, you will get through this.


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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