Punkin...you know best...but, I agree with a few others about the question at the end...asking him to come home is pressuring, assuming, and a whole host of other things that he might feel...
I don't know...but maybe something along the lines of, "I don't want a divorce...I don't feel that all is lost...but I do respect that you feel differently...but should you change your mind...I may be open to that discussion..."
You have time to think about it...not only to find the right time...but to be sure your ready for his response (if there is one)...like I said, I ran right up to 3 days before the D would have been final...and then I had to scramble to get a hearing before a judge to dismiss it...you have time...time is your friend...really think about what you want, what you hope to accomplish, and then be prepared for anything!
