Good morning gentlemen ... well, gentlemAn and Grit ...
Yes, Lance, you're right ... not detached enough. Let my guard down being away for a week and engaged because I was tired and let my emotions get the best of me. I've let myself get lulled into a false sense of "friendship" on a few occasions and I did it again. Time to put my list into action and get to gettin' (nickle Brooklyn).
Believe it or not, I also showed a great deal of restraint and managed, thanks to Eric, Missher and CD Bear's support (and my sister too!) to NOT do all kinds of things I WANTED to do ... like call her, like tell him off, like tell the kids nasty things ... blah, blah, blah.
I was much better by the time I went to bed (geez Grit, cut a girl some slack, that was a LONG drive!) and I'm in a good place today.
Eric: Thank you. I know you GET me and understand the anger, helping me walk through it was invaluable. Oh, and thanks for throwing some of that lumber back my way You are right, I need darkness, being "friends" is hurting my abiity to detach. Thanks for checking on me.
Missher: Your "scripts" are exactly what I needed. You, my friend, are in the wrong business ... just sayin'. And the gentle 2x4s ... needed those too.
CD Bear: Thanks dude, needed the rant to release the anger, thanks for the ear and the lumber!
One of my new favourite quotes:
Hope. With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
A good "Self-reflection Sunday" (nickle Eric) to all! Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
- Do some housework - Take the kiddos grocery shopping (I know, I said I'd never do that again! How soon I forget eh!) - Take some marshmallows and some stuff out to the campground where mom is staying for a visit - Once kids are in bed: research age appropriate conversations to have with them re the sitch (I am taking some advice and invoking the 48 hr rule on the actual convo to make sure that I am not saying anything out of anger) - Once kids are in bed: start cleaning out my kitchen (long overdue!) and I will put any extra stuff in boxes for stbxH. - A bubblebath!
So folks ... I'll check in later, but now to go enjoy my kids!
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Oh .... and just curious Lance ... how intact would your detachment be if you found out that your W was entertainng OM in YOUR house while your young children were there and you were out of town?
I'm not saying I shouldn't be more detached ... but even the best of us have "breaking points" ...
OK ... back to the kids PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
You are right, I need darkness, being "friends" is hurting my abiity to detach. Thanks for checking on me. 