I need to do some reflection on my recap now that it is all there in black and white, but I want to address the situation at hand first. If anyone is looking at this, I would appreciate feedback.
Of course I am stressing that Mr. A asked me out on a date on Thursday but hasn't called me to confirm since then. We don't have a time or a place. We just agreed that we would go out on Sunday afternoon.
Now I need a plan of action for myself. Let me just get it all out there and it'll help me think things through...
If I knew for sure that Mr. A would follow through and we would have a date tomorrow afternoon, I would do the following:
1) Get all of my "weekend chores" (laundry, vacuuming, etc.) done now; 2) Primp, like give myself a facial; 3) Brush up on normal things to talk about, since all I ever do is post/read here and read relationship books!!! 4) POSSIBLY get some information on what we could do tomorrow...
Regarding #4: Since Mr. A asked me out, I might not bother trying to figure out options for what we should do. He said that he would like to go to the driving range (I think golf has become a metaphor for us), and he sort of implied that I've been doing this more, so I should decide. But I think that would be getting back into a self-defeating pattern... more on that later.
The alternative scenario is that Mr. A doesn't call at all and we're off for tomorrow. If I think along those lines, I'm setting Mr. A up to fail me. But if I don't acknowledge that possibility, I'm setting myself up for disappointment.
So the big question is this: Now that I am in "Surviving the Big D", should I still - as DR/MDW would recommend - "act as if"? Knowing that Mr. A left me, had a big affair, and then proceeded to divorce me, should I still "act as if" he is going to come through on our date tomorrow?
P.S. Sometimes reality seems too hard to believe!!!
