That is an example of why I had a hard time accepting the exposure technique. However, I do believe in cases where the S is so rebellious and the M is not going to survive the A....that it should be exposed. It needs to be done in the right way. But with the exposure should come the realization that R's could be changed due to the exposure (such as in your case). Bust the A if you see that the D will not be busted.

I don't say a lot to encourage exposure b/c I posted to a LBH who had a terrible rebellious WAW....and he left the board immediately after he exposed her A, without telling us what happened. (This wasn't Ken, but long before him.) I am no expert in the exposure technique and felt that I may have given the wrong advice and it went very badly. Guess I'll never know.

In my personal stitch, it would have ended my M. I am sure of it. Mainly b/c of the mental condition that I was in at the time. My shame would have been too great. I believe I would have moved away. I just could not have face my family or the people where I lived.

So, that was why I was against exposure in the beginning, but after much reading from Puppy & Allen.....I understand why it is needed in some cases.

Last edited by sandi2; 08/22/10 01:26 AM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!