THIS IS HORRIBLE!!! HOW DID MY LIFE COME TO THIS>!?!?!?!?!?
Because. You did not "put your foot down" and say that Internet chat affairs, and secret college friends and peek-a-boo web cam programs were inappropriate and you did not approve.
so you set precedence she could walk all over you.
Because. You did not "put your foot down" and say that the lack of transparency and lack of trust indicated something was going on and you did not approve.
so you set precedence she could walk all over you.
Because. she started stupid arguments about cookware and you did not catch on that there was a bigger issue to deal with.
so you set precedence she could walk all over you.
Because. She set ridiculous boundaries you agreed to then rubbed them in your face.
so you set precedence she could walk all over you.
Believe it, this actually the best thing that could happen to you.
Because. Now you can deal with these issues where you allowed her to walk all over you before you let her back into your life.