He is still a half a world away. When would he be coming home? Anything you say now won't make any difference by the time he gets home. Actions not words. So I would not worry too much about what you are saying now. Validate his desires, there is no point in having a huge discussion by e-mail or phone.
See if he will tell you about OW, you don't want to be sharing. If he went through OW withdrawal then you might be in rebuilding stage when he comes back. It wouldn't be a bed of roses but you might be able to date and rebuild your M.
