At one point during this, she comes in and takes her bra off and starts looking at her boobs in the mirror in front of me (post-surgery). I go over and have a look and caress her tummy and side briefly, then go back to putting kids to bed.
At some point, I lift the blanket covering her legs and start massaging her feet and legs. She extends her legs to me and says hesitantly that this doesnt mean she wants to reconcile that she is still unsure what she wants. I tell her I understand that she is very scared and it's ok, I am happy to massage her legs. She nods, and I rub her feet and legs with lotion for 30-45 mins while we talk and mellow out.
At one point while she is doing this she drops her panties and I tell her her pooper still looks great. She gives a half-hearted stop it, and I teasingly say YOU stop it. After a few minutes, she pulls her panties back up (sheer so I can still see her ass anyway), and I tell her her panties are hot. Give her a little slap on the ass as I walk by her into the bathroom once I'm done with the bed.
though I question if I am pursuing too much and/or being too much Mr. Nice Guy. I rationalize that it's not like the begging/pleading/change your mind kind of pursuit, it's more the flirty bucket filling stuff? Thoughts?
Hey Busto! It does sound like a good day!
She is having her cake. She's teasing the F*&k out of you Man. Go read John28's post and see where this "flirting" got him. Go read Robx's original post where he talks about his W "wiggling her A$$" in front of him. (I'll bump it up for you)
She is in a way controlling you and if all of a sudden she STOPS this your in for one hell of a let down. If she doesn't know for sure if she wants to reconcile, then maybe if you stop massaging her, looking at her body, slapping her A$$, or pay attention when she blatantly flaunts her goods...then maybe she will change her mind. Right now she is controlling you by 1) empowering herself by your desire for her and 2)letting you know what you can't have. STOP it!
She's got you right where she wants you and if you stand up for yourself and not allow her to hold over you an obvious weakness, then she's gonna be forced to see that you have self respect and confidence.
Maybe someone else will see it differently, but I don't think it's a good thing for you right now. It's weak and supplicating and all to common.
