Since people are playing retroville salesperson in a situation where it seems very likely your wife is still involved in some sort of affair, I am going to play big brother.
With no disrespect to Sandi; Part of the problem here is this: Sandi calls you a "little desparate boy." And you are thanking her, thanking her so very much.
Man. Time to man up. Be a man. John.
And No. The Gucci speech wasn't going to have any effect because she just gave it to you. That is like taking the cream from the pie that just got smashed against your face and flicking it back. It doesn't have the same effect.
Get your emotional state in check.
I really like Coach and Sandi and PDT. I think their way of conveying what needs to be said is fantastic and to the point. But every time I read them write about boundaries I kinda shutter. Boundaries are like fences and rules they are meant to be tested; they are to be jumped and broken. Your wife gave you some boundaries that say I don't want to be your wife. And you are treating them like the word of God. Do you not want to be her husband?
Your wife came on to you sexually several times over the past week and you rejected her each time. Last night even leaving the house. No wonder she dumped you.
As I read this, I am wondering if either you are not interested in girls or you enjoy playing the cuckold.
Your wife goes Brazilian. Lets you touch her. And it goes no further.
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I dont get it! Your excuse is her boundary is not to have sex with her. I don't get that either. Does she have VD and doesn't want you to get it? Do you think it disappoints her that John isn't man enough to take her sexually? Obviously last night it was. She goes out of her way to plan this special night that you asked for and you don't thank her correctly.
Originally Posted By: john28
I have to if I want any chance to save my M.
John. If you want any chance to save your marriage you need to break her boundaries.
