I did a little of both...sometimes I would just tell him how well I was doing and end it with "that doesn't mean that I wouldn't want you in my life"...then there were the times towards the end where he actually showed interest in what his family was doing, where we were living, etc...and I asked if he ever thought of "us"...
I didn't get a lot of opportunity to see him much because he lived several hours away...didn't answer his phone...wouldn't tell me where he lived...wouldn't respond to emails...
Sometimes it was just the simple conversations where I would mention my accomplishments...now understand, I had never ever lived on my own, went from parents to married, I had never had a job that would have been considered a living wage job...so for me to be able to jump in, get a job, get an apartment, and keep all the bills current when he wasn't giving me anything was HUGE for me...I guess that was my greatest 180
