Originally Posted By: john28

She said, "I have made my mind up. I am going to leave you. I do not want to try anymore. I can not try anymore. I do not want to be married to you anymore."


Hello John,

I just wanted to say with all sincerity, that I'm sorry for what you are going through and just experienced. These words are more crushing than the thought of an Affair IMO. Just so you know, you are not alone and you can be thankful that Sandi2 wrote those words a couple posts up. I too, am suffering this weekend very badly, all the detachment process was going smoothly, but yesterday I woke up so depressed that I called in sick. Now it's Saturday and I've tried everything to pull my head out of my ass and to fight this. Just reading Sandi2's post helped a lot, but I'm going to have to read Robx's approach AGAIN, because I can't find motivation to get out of my funk right now.

I hope you have friends John, because I don't right now. If you do, I strongly advise you use them to get out of the house today and go do something different. Anything! Fight the wallow and accept it. Lord knows, that's what I have to go do. I'm going to read some posts and then go out and do some yard work and probably scare the neighbors while I cry the whole F'n time. But John, we will succeed bud, that which doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. We can do it friend.