Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[steady]

Thank you. I believe that he doesn't think it could work (he can't see how it could)

Don't make the mistake of assuming they can see things from the perspective we can see them from.

To us it seems so obvious, but they are on the other side and have been looking in the other direction. My W ejects anything (ideas, people, etc) that shows even a hint of her maybe not being on target. I could show her how our M could work out but she won't be able to actually see it, or she'll downright reject it because it's not in line with her 'plan'.

I want to be the mom that I envision myself to be in my head - much more active with them, engaging them all day instead of sitting like a lump half the time on the sofa. They start 3 morning a week in preschool in Sept so that will give me more time to myself to make appointments.

Having kids and going through this stuff is quite difficult. It interfered so much with my desire to engage them. The stress and depression can be overwhelming.

I have an appt with a pysch on Monday and I'm hoping to get something to help me sleep.

This is a good opportunity to have the psych give you an assessment. Maybe they can help point out any issues you may need to work on. At least that's what I would do and have done in the past. Just came back from my Psych's office.

Also joining the Y and have set some realistic weight loss goals for myself.

Good for you. Will you keep doing it regardless of any turns in your sitch? If you answer yes, then it is for you.

If I go move back home as a single FT working mom I won't be able to do this then, only maintain whatever I can do now, so I do feel the pressure of taking on this challenge right now.

I had a fortune cookie a month ago - Bend the rod while it is still hot. (Same as strike when the iron is hot)

I don't intend to contact or pursue anymore.

Stick to this no matter what.

Next up I plan to start to reread the Divorce Remedy book tonight when they are asleep. I read it before but have a different mindset now that our situation has changed.

Yes to the DB book. Concurrently, start identifying what role you played in the wasting away of your R and identify things you need to change to make you a healthier individual. Then write them here. DO NOT skip this. I would do it first, before re-reading DB.