The problem I'm dealing with is that obviously H doesn't want to be with me right now. I know that I don't need him to live, I do however, still want him. That is my problem. He knows I'll survive w/o him, but what if part of the reason he continues to be with ow is because he thinks she needs him?
I'm sure your H knows you'll survive w/o him. After all, you've held the fort many times while he's been gone for extended periods of time.
I may be assuming here, but I believe the ow in your case is using your H to try to get something she wants. If she could have gotten it on her own she would have had it by now. What she wants is something your H never had any interest in, right? He may be confusing her using him as being she needs him.
ImLin, was there ever anything that would happen to prompt you to throw those seeds out to your H, or did you just do it at different times to test the waters?
