To Tell or Not to Tell

[A_goodman]

LRT,

Been thinking about you. How are things? Yesterday, I also had a rather discombobulating external event that has thrown me for a loop. I'll post it on my thread when I get 30 minutes or so of quiet.

I re-read your post about telling H about it because something was stuck in the back of my mind. About him feeling like he's got no control; this is a perfect openning for validation, and a chance to help him see it a different way. He DOES have a ton of control. It's totally understandable why he feels that way. I'm certain you see that and probably validated it already. You probably even comiserated your feeling about it being out of your control as well.

He, (and you) actually have immense control. He can control how he chooses
to approach the situation. He is in total control over his decisions. He can step up and do the right thing. That would mean temporarily putting aside some hang ups and being strong for you and his potential new child. He can choose to be a good dad and if not a good and committed husband, at least a good friend to the woman he's spent years beside. He's got tons of control. And he's scared like you. It will be much easier and less scary if he choose to face it together as a team.

God watch over you.