Still trying to find my way

[TimeHeals]

There is mediation in NY, not sure of the cost. What exactly does mediation do?

Well, you could google it, but it's generally a way for you to work out things like custody, alimony, division assets, and child support without doing it in front of a judge (court costs) using your attorneys (who charge 150 or more an hour). It's something you do so you can draft a dissolution agreement you both agree with (or your attorneys can go back and forth on it). Ask an attorney at some point.