Still trying to find my way

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I don't know if H will contest or not. I am thinking yes because he wants it filed on grounds of constructive abandonment but then he may be so eager to divorce that he's willing to accept whatever gounds I use.

Whatever you decide to do cannot be based on how you anticipate he might or might not react. Is there mediation in your state? That might cut through some of these questions about how to proceed. An attorney will tell you these things, I expect.