Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[TimeHeals]

My heart is melting with pain and love at the same time

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The sooner you accept it--regardless if you two part or reconcile--the better. You are still resisting it.

Your wife isn't in love with you. That's all this is. Your life will go on, and you will be happy no matter what happens.

I know these words sound hollow, but by fighting it you are your own worst enemy at this point. Take it from somebody whose ego would not let him really believe that his wife just did not love him anymore and that she was convinced that maybe she never did. Struggling against that, not accepting that hardened her resolve if it did anything.

The way this works, if there is an affair, then you bust that affair if possible because it is the right thing to do, but then you still have to let go. If there is any chance at all for a possible reconcilliation in your future--and it's iffy--you have to accept that she doesn't love you, and then be honest with yourself: you will never be happy being married to somebody who does not love you, so let go.