Unfortunately my H's cell phone and computer are company owned, so I'm sure most of the exchanges take place there. However, one week a month he will live at the house to take care of the kids. I'm going to put on the network magic on the desktop, but he is leaving tomorrow and I'm sure he will take the old laptop. Is there something I can do to that laptop that won't let the internet work on it? My thought is then when he is in the house he will be forced to use the desktop and I can at least learn OW's name. He isn't very tech savvy, so if there is something I can easily do to the laptop that lets it work, but not connect, that should be good. I'm assuming he wouldn't use his work computer for facebook, but who knows.
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW
Just don't let him install the external hard drive unsupervised. He could still be using this as a means to put some keylogging software on your computer.
Not trying to be paranoid, but rather going by your initial "wierd vibes" comment, Dudess.
Thanks Puppy. I'll keep watch.
I don't want to be paranoid either. I do get a 'weird vibe', just not sure what that's about.
I don't know much about computers, but I have installed more sophisticated "anti-douchebag" protection systems in my brain to quickly neutralize and quarantine threats to my happiness.
YOu aren't being paranoid if something feels off ...
THere are a mountain of cases the police are investigating these days of people offering high tech gifts only to use them for nefarious purposes...
Spy cams Spyware on pc spy recorders, etc
People are using electronics to invade homes like never before these days... THey may just want to violate your privacy, they may want to break into yoru home, or they may be after your children or your spouse... it's all over hte place these days...
Didn't you say it was an external hard drive? An Hour to, uh, plug it in???????
Seems excessive doesn't it.
I didn't even know what the gift was, but didn't like that he seemed to be insisting on me setting aside an hour for him to 'help' me set it up. 'Gifts' which require the recipient to accept help/control, don't feel good.
I just told him I was pretty busy, so if he wanted to drop it by, that was fine, and I could perhaps ask for help later if needed.
You are able to schedule sms msgs to go to a certain phone and have it come across as being sent from any number you wish.
Particularly effective if you are around the H or W and they 'receive' a text from the OW or OM. One scenario may be a text that obviously was meant for someone else talking about the OW or OM. Lots of possibilities.
