Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

John,

I don't know much about your situation, I just found your thread. But I see that you are upset, so I thought i would respond. Of course you know that arguing with her will just make her more firm in her stance. Some people have had success by letting the wife see what life without you will be like. This works better with wives who don't have jobs that would support them. When the wife is financially secure, this has little effect.

I see that you two had a nice night last night. It sounds like she may be having some pull back after feeling that she went too far in getting along with you. I'd say the best thing now is to stall for time. Say you want to think about it. Do some research....find out about mediation. And really do it. Find out all you can about divorce in your state. And while you are at it, look into Retrouvaille, at www.helpourmarriage.org. These people have saved thousands of marriages on the brink of divorce. Talk about options for mediation, but also talk about just giving it one weekend at Retrouvaille first. Try to get her to agree to go.

thank you so much for responding Lotus. I really appreciate the words. I just feel so alone and any words right now mean gold to me.

I had just signed us up for Retrouvaille maybe 30 minutes ago. They don't come to my town though until 6 weeks from now. would it be better to go out of town immidiately to one of these? I have no idea. the next one that is near to me is on the 10th of September - about 20 days away....



and i have stalled for time... i got her to wait until after our next MC session but she said she didn't want to wait 2 weeks that i should call immidiately and get the next time, preferrably Monday. I don't know how much more I can stall on this. She seems like she wants to rush all of this right now. She told me she wanted me to think about mediation tommorrow and give me an answer.