I don't know much about your situation, I just found your thread. But I see that you are upset, so I thought i would respond. Of course you know that arguing with her will just make her more firm in her stance. Some people have had success by letting the wife see what life without you will be like. This works better with wives who don't have jobs that would support them. When the wife is financially secure, this has little effect.
I see that you two had a nice night last night. It sounds like she may be having some pull back after feeling that she went too far in getting along with you. I'd say the best thing now is to stall for time. Say you want to think about it. Do some research....find out about mediation. And really do it. Find out all you can about divorce in your state. And while you are at it, look into Retrouvaille, at www.helpourmarriage.org. These people have saved thousands of marriages on the brink of divorce. Talk about options for mediation, but also talk about just giving it one weekend at Retrouvaille first. Try to get her to agree to go.
