It is certainly not a bad thing that you both can be civil to each other and co-parent in harmony. More than most of us could imagine. But maybe it makes it so much harder for you to let go.
Barb, if being civil and co-parenting in harmony makes it harder for me to let go, then so be it. My kids deserve parents who get along as best they can. Hey, maybe we're co-dependent. I just know that she's the mother of my children and will always have my respect and love for that. Do I see her as someone who will give me what I need and deserve? NO. She's got her issues which she's not willing to deal with and that's up to her. I'm just trying to figure out where I go from here with my life, shrink says it's natural for me to be feeling anxious about that at 52 years of age and starting all over. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts, suggestions and sharing. As always I really do appreciate your caring...and btw, my team lost! I should also mention that I have discussed my R with wife with a therapist and a psychologist in the past year and neither thought that the R was an issue. The therapist said it was a bit odd but saw no problems with it as long as we were keeping it to family outings and occasions like that. Wife and I do NOT go out together otherwise.
