I not looking to change her, although I would love too..
Err... ummm... not your job. Let go of what you cannot control, and you cannot control anything but how you respond to others, situations, and your own emotions.
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I don't want to get blind sided with papers either.
Then accept that may happen, and there's not a thing you can do about it.
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I also know my W thinks she probably has made it pretty clear that her decision is final.
Then don't ask her how she feels. Tell her you understand that as far as she is concerned, her mind is made up, and she doesn't love you anymore.
You might as well agree with her at this point. Fighting that won't make things better, and I can testify to that first hand.
Let go.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I know I'm only in control of my emotions. The whole thing about mediation is that it would save us a lot & I can't really afford to retain a lawyer.
I’m trying to finish school and get on my feet with a job in my field. For now I will have to take alimony from her & it sucks, but she knows that.
I appreciate your help & I probably will just talk about S as it seems that’s all we have going between us now. I guess just lost and frustrated right now.
