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[Jstar]

Well wed, thur, and frid h picked up me and kids to drop me at work so he and mil can watch kids while i work. he's been somewhat on time. first day was HORRIBLE, i threw a stack of articles at him.

thur was alittle less stressful, not so upset. so thur night i registerd on a dating service and decided to just not say but very few words to him as we are in same truck. i sit in back with kids. he really doesn't say anything.

d3 locked him in to going into walmart so i could deposit my check, she wanted mom and dads hand. the same walmart we go to often and eat mcdonlads at so she of course wanted to eat there not take it home, h was like ok time to drop you off

i just said, you can leave us and go on ur way we will take the bus home the rest of the way our d wants to eat here, so he just sat down.

i had to set a boundary, it infuriates me when he talks/texts on his phone. so i said out of respect for me do not talk/text in my presense, he did it a few times and i just kept saying you can leave, if you can't not talk ont eh phone or text, then leave, i find it disrespectful, etc etc.

he comes in the morning tired especially if he's worked tomignight or out, wow now he's having to deal with the real world of getting 2 kids ready, transporting them here and there work and still take care of them in teh same day, everyone atmy work is like aw now he knows what it's like to be a parent.

he's gonna sick and tired of picking us up at 6-630 am rearranging his scheudle i'm loving it.

another boundary i set was him not being able to just pop up. he has d3's big battery cars, she wants it home with us, he says to her i'll just drop it off sat, i say probably not a good idea, he says i wasn't going to do it anyways, so i say then don't make promises to d3 that you never plan on keeping, then he says he'd do it sunday, again i say it's not good for you to just drop by. kind of leading to the poing of well u never know if we will be alone.

i talk to d3 while we are driving i know he's listening, he won't see we gal so i say maybe we should go swimming, go to this park etc.
i changed my status on fb and made it so EVERYONE can see, in open marriage.

i also said since i've made 3 of his truck payments stolemy credit card, the only right thing to do is to provide somemoney for a car and not some junker that will leave me and kids stranded. i gave him a deadline, his consequence is if he doesn't provide the money he's gonna have to pick us up everyday and drop us off every night, he will get really tired of it soon.

I've thought a lot about my 1st divorce, even as much as bad as it was, and took that long, teh feelings of love just don't die like that. he's gonna see us doing things as family miss sons 1/2 bday and d3 birthday.

i'm going to try to update my wardrobe some, get some high lights next week or two from coworker. i did get compliments of how nice i looked today from coworkers, made me feel better.

wed he talked about divorce, or i did i don't remember who, i said if you want a fast none drawn out divorce, then we would have to agree on everything file it with the court, they look over it for child support custody and stuff like that and will sign off on it faster then if we disagree. he's like yeah lets do that. so i put the ball in his court to come up with a time to write everything up.