Did the game get better? I chose to watch Dateline. It seems to get better every week. Josh & I usually watch it together at the cottage.
6 months after my mother died of cancer my family was invited to attend a memorial service at church dedicated to those who had passed in the previous year and their family. The pastor spoke long about grief. The words really stuck with me.
"Grief is not something you put away in a drawer. You have to take it out, try it on, you have to FEEL it. Because if you keep it shut in the drawer, you won't get past it". So I learned to feel my pain over my Mom's loss. I cried. Just as I did when my marriage ended. Just as I did when my little boy nearly died. I let it out. I felt it.
Wii, I think you have always felt that you and your wife would stick together in one way or another. Just as my daughter does with her ex boyfriend. THey still hang out together. They still go out together. I think she secretly harbours hope that they'll get back together. And unfortunately, this hope keeps her from moving forward. And she is still sad. And she is still stuck.
Maybe you need to be honest with yourself about your relationship with your wife. It is certainly not a bad thing that you both can be civil to each other and co-parent in harmony. More than most of us could imagine. But maybe it makes it so much harder for you to let go.
Grieve, Wii. Please grieve for all that you have lost. Let go of the relationship you once had with your wife and it will be very freeing for you.
