Me too. In his opinion, "marriage isn't supposed to be this hard.". I don't think he is willing to put the hard work into any relationship. He needs someone to take care of his life so why would he want to take on more?
He refused marriage counseling. The big obstacle is himself. I don't think he realizes how good he had it. I don't know if there is anyone who is as capable of managing his life the way I did. I know it sounds cocky but after 10 years of being there for him, I know it's hard work.
There aren't a lot of women out there who are as capable as I am. Heck, the women around here have their husbands take their car in to the shop for service. Me? I take my own car into the shop and I make sure I know what is getting done. My h doesn't do anything for me. I even schedule his car appointments for him! Oh geezus ... I was like a mother to him.
